Getting Down to the Deep Motives

(worksheet from Education 193B) 1-29-01

Our deepest motivations produce the greatest energy and determine where we will invest our time, energy, and talent...thereby determining what we will do and achieve!

I owe a debt!
....to BB because she taught me the importance of hard work and determination
....to my parents because they have given me so many opportunities and taught me so many things.
....out of my indebtedness I need to write/send a note so they know my gratitude and try to fill their role for others.

Persons I love and want to please:
....my father
...my mother
...my grandmother

I want to please my father because he has always helped and pushed me to do my best.
I want to please God because God has allowed me to do so much and blessed me in so many ways.
Out of my desire to please the above persons, I intend to: work diligently to work to my ability and live by moral standards.

What I love
...when i can help someone else
...when i am teaching others
...to think about making others happy and brightening their day
....to lift someone's spirit
...(would love) to help those in need (foster/abused kids and sexual/domestic violence victims).
...to make a difference and be an example.
...be in a career of helping (i.e., teaching, social work, counseling, pastoral care)

My compassions
...it kills me to see others hurting
...it kills me to think about losing my loved ones.
...I die a little each time I can't help another.
...I die a little each day that I'm focusing on myself and not aware of others.
....My compassions, what kills me and makes me die inside, tells me that I want to make a difference by helping others.

Being alive
I'm most alive when I teach.
I'm most alive when I am learning new things.
I come alive when I can help or teach someone something new.
The times when I'm most fully alive are when I am with my family.
I want to experience more moments of aliveness by having a family of my own.

My Deep Emotions
Two of my deepest emotions include 1) guilt. 2) love.
I feel deepest about my family and their well-being.
My deep emotions and feelings let me know that I am deeply motivated to have a family that I spend time with.

The person I want to become and be
I've always dreamed that I would help in a counseling forum.
I will feel that I've been successful if I have helped those around me.
I will move from successful to significant if I can positively impact the lives of those around me.
The two qualities that characterize the person I am motivated to become are: 1) honest. 2) loving.

Summary and Conclusions
My deepest motivations are:
1) to have a family
2) to be educated and to teach my loved ones and others.
3) to be a teacher of the Lord.
4) to help people out of harmful or abusive situations.

Academic Achievement Motivations
My deepest motivations are connected to me being a high academic achiever in the following ways: I need to know the ways of the world and about theories of thought etc and about the Bible so that I may be a valuable resource.